To my children's birth Moms: I cannot even imagine what a difficult day this must be for you. You will never know the depth of the joy that you have brought into our lives
In response to some of your comments and questions. Here's what I've learned.
Someone wrote to me the following:
I work for NBC (in a department not affiliated with this program) and the phone calls and emails that have come pouring in have been close to 15,0000. I just wanted you to know that your voices as a community have definitely rattled the cage and caused changes in protocol to occur.
I also received this copy of a response from another person, which answers Kelly's question about whether or not anyone at Teleflora is a Mom.
Thank you for contacting Teleflora to share your thoughts about the
"Teleflora presents America's Favorite Mom" program.
In response to your concerns, Teleflora is immediately changing the
name of our "Non-Mom" category to "Adopting Moms." After closer
examination, we can see how this may have been offensive to moms who
have adopted children -- moms who are indeed real moms to their
children in every sense of the word. In fact, many of us at
Teleflora are "adopting" parents ourselves, including our president
and owner. The essence of this category still focuses on a
grandparent, neighbor, step mom, or mom to adopted or foster
children, each one raising and loving a child.
This show of insensitivity on our part was in no way intended and we
deeply apologize for any concern or distress we may have caused. It
was always our intent to salute and celebrate all moms.
In closing, all of us at Teleflora would like to offer our sincerest
best wishes to all the many women throughout the world who have
worked so hard and given so much to earn the name "Mom."
The America's Favorite Mom Team
And in response to April's comment, "I don't understand why we can't just be in the same category as moms." I don't either. I'm not interested in watching the show (which will
air tomorrow night). I also don't understand how Marie Osmond, who is hosting the show and is an adoptive mother of 5 children herself, would represent something so ignorant. But then again, with so many hands in the pot, she may not even have known about the categories.
I'm off to something more productive and meaningful, spending time with my family. Have a great day everyone!
Thank you to everyone who wrote and called into NBC. The adoption community is definitely tight knit and we ROCK!
NBC has changed the name of the category to The Adopting Mom. You can click here to take a peek at it yourself.
In addition, the following comment was left under my initial posting about this issue:
Grace Chang said...
My name is Grace and I work with Edelman (www.Edelman.com), on behalf of Teleflora’s “America’s Favorite Mom” program. Thank you for sharing your thoughts about this issue. After closer examination, Teleflora recognized how this may have been offensive to moms who have adopted children… moms who are indeed real moms in every sense of the word. This show of insensitivity was in no way intended and Teleflora offers its deepest apology.
It was always Teleflora’s intent to salute and celebrate all moms. Please know that in response to the concerns expressed, Teleflora immediately changed the name of the “Non-Mom” category to “Adopting Moms,” which has already been posted at AmericasFavoriteMom.com.
On behalf of Teleflora, I would like to offer my sincerest best wishes to you on this Mother’s Day.
Someone emailed me this and it just made my blood boil. Maybe I'm PMS'ing or being overly sensitive but when someone categorizes me as a "Non-Mom", I think I have every right to show my Mama Bear claws.
Just ask my sweeties if I'm their MOM or not!!!!!
Click HERE to view what the idiots at NBC have come up with now!
It's your chance to vote for your favorite mom. The categories are:
"COE" (Chairman of Everything)
"Non-mom Mom", which includes adoptive mothers! GRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!
I was tagged by Holly at Purpose Driven Family. I thought this "tag" was different and I really enjoyed it. Thank, Holly!
I am: addicted to adoption blogs.
I think: God gives us miracles every single day, we just have to open our eyes to them!
I know: that Jesus Christ is my Savior and my redeemer.
I want: to hear my children say someday that I did a good job raising them.
I hate: seeing injustice, suffering children, oppression and poverty world-wide.
I miss: my oldest son being around daily and I miss my grandparents.
I fear: cockroaches! YIKES!!!!!!!!!!
I feel: blessed with everything I have and the possibility of yet another blessing on its way.
I hear: God’s whispers, but only when I am truly still and listening.
I smell: gardenias when I walk out my front door. Mmm….
I crave: going away alone with Scott.
I search: for God’s will in almost everything I do.
I regret: the times I’ve had the opportunity to reach out to others, but because of selfishness, I haven’t.
I love: my Lord and Savior, first and foremost, and then my family with an intense passion.
I ache: to hold and care for a child that has never been shown the love of a mother.
I care: for orphans worldwide.
I always: begin my morning thanking God for being in my life, for another day and asking Him to allow me to bring honor and glory to Him in everything that I do that day.
I am not: good at math!
I believe: that we WILL add another child to our family and I stand STRONG on that
I sing: with my kids all the time.
I cry: when I think about the conditions that Kai lived in before bringing him home.
(We are blessed that Anna Grace came from a very good orphanage and a foster family that showed her a lot of love.)
I fight: to resist Satan’s snares almost daily.
I win: when I accepted Jesus Christ as my Savior.
I lose: every time I try to take situations into my own hands.
I never: want to imagine living life without my husband or my children.
I listen: to worship music and to my friends when they encourage me through scripture and wise words.
I can usually be found: changing diapers, at some doctor or therapist office, handing out snack/sippy cups, refereeing, reading stories, singing, or when I have quiet time, on the computer reading adoption blogs.
I am scared: of dying and leaving my babies for someone else to raise.
I need: to spend more time in the Word of God and in prayer. I also need to spend more
time with my Mom,
I am happy about: my life. It is full of blessings, including my new nephew, Seth, whom I adore!
I hope: that I can be Jesus’ hands and feet on earth and that my children learn from my actions to do the same.
I tag anyone who wishes to do this, just let me know so I could go to your blog and check it out!
Anna Grace and Kai are the best of buddies and the worst of enemies. They have this passionate love/hate relationship where they could be bickering with each other for an hour, yet can't stand being away from each other. I knew that the two of them together in a classroom would be oodles of fun....NOT!
Yesterday afternoon I pick them up. Miss Krissie (their teacher) says, "Anna Grace and Kai had a really rough day today. I put a note in their bags explaining." I bent down and asked each of them if they had a bad day (which was evident even before I was told by the teacher because of the somber looks and hanging heads as they approached me). They both nodded. Kai quickly held up 4 little fingers and interjected with "FOUR TIMES!", as if it was a huge milestone he had reached.
I had them both apologize to Miss Krissie for their behavior and we scurried out the door of the school, got into the car, and I told them to buckle in, as I began opening up their backpacks to find the following notes.
"Kai did not have a good day today.
He was roaring like a tiger during circle time.
Soaked his head under the faucet while he was supposed to be washing his hands.
Layed down on the table during time out and...
wrestled Anna Grace to the ground for a purple crayon!"
I took a deep breath and opened Anna Grace's backpack and read her note.
"Anna Grace did not have a good day today.
She rolled around the carpet during morning announcements.
She washed her face and hair in the water fountain.
She swung her walking partner into a wall.
She was singing loudly during nap time."
The ever positive teacher ended both notes with "I'm sure Kai/Anna Grace will have a better day tomorrow."
NOTE: I think my email server may have changed their security because I have found a bunch of emails in my spam folder (which I rarely open). If yours is one of those, I'm truly sorry, because some are about 2 weeks old! I have moved them all to my inbox and will respond soon. I've already responded to some. Again, I'm sorry. Not sure why that happened.
God is good! I am humbled that he continues to use me as His vessel to reach out to others. I came home tonight after a huge celebration (I'll post about that later) with the kids to find 5 (!!!) emails from friends and a couple of strangers telling me that my last post was directed towards THEM! Please remember that I am only a tool. God is the orchestrator and with a thankful heart I give Him the glory and honor for anyone that is ever touched by any words I write.
Now, time to make some room for something I really want to vent/share about. Those of you that know me, know that I am a type A personality. I feel like I'm now a woman on a mission. And Scott? Well, I think he feels like smacking me! Heh! Right about now, you must be asking yourself, "What the hec is she babbling about now?"
Do you have any idea how hard it is for me to get the green light, first from God, and then from my husband, to bring home another little one and NOT be able to. UGH!!!!
Yeah, yeah. I know I wrote all about Daddy having a plan, about His timing being perfect (and I TRULY believe that with all my heart), but man, oh man! This is killing me. I now spend every free second (hence my reason for being so lame about returning emails....so sorry!!!) just gazing into the beautiful chocolate-colored eyes of African children. I think I've spoken to every adoption agency working in every country in Africa in the past month. I've even begun to ponder boy names that start with the letter "A". Someone please shake me back into reality!
Our biggest (and only) obstacle continues to be finances. First the ones we need to clear, and then the ones we need to gather for another adoption. Do I feel God will provide? Absolutely! NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE WITH GOD! "But Jesus beheld them, and said unto them, With men this is impossible; but with God all things are possible." - Matthew 19:26
But why is He taking so long? Where is it going to come from? How is He going to arrange this? I don't know, but I do know that I'm ready, Lord!! Scott's ready (although not nearly as anxious as I am)! There are a couple of things looking good for us right now, but they are not happening at warp speed.
Tonight after watching American Idol with Scott, I turned to him and said, "What about club feet?" He looked at me as if I had asked him if he could see well out of his third eye! He said, "Huh?" I said, "What about club feet? Are we going to request a healthy child or are we again going for special needs? And if we are adopting a special needs child, what do you think about club feet?" He burst out in laughter (which he knows pisses me off!!!) and said, "We're gonna pay off all our bills first." Men! (Yes, Aus...feel free to comment. I'd love to hear from probably my only male reader. :)
I then stomped off in my childish manner muttering under my breath that club feet is fine with me and that he could laugh all he wants but that I was going to find a way to pay off all our bills and that he should expect our social worker to jump out of his stocking at Christmas time waving a homestudy at him! I could still hear him laughing as I walked down the hall.
So, that's where I'm at tonight. Praying that God somehow make that miracle happen.
He's already done the hard part, convincing Scott. Coming up with money to pay off our last adoption debt, should be a breeze for Him! Please keep my overzealous enthusiasm in your prayers, while at the same time asking the Lord to, if at all possible, come up with something quick so that we can get started on bringing home another little guy before I lose my sanity!
"All praise to God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly realms because we are united with Christ. Even before he made the world, God loved us and chose us in Christ to be holy and without fault in his eyes. God decided in advance to adopt us into his own family by bringing us to himself through Jesus Christ. This is what he wanted to do, and it gave him great pleasure. So we praise God for the glorious grace he has poured out on us who belong to his dear Son." - EPHESIANS 1:3-6
(PLEASE REMEMBER TO TURN OFF BACKGROUND MUSIC)
I couldn't ask for a better life filled with lots of kids, an adoring husband, chaos, laughter and more love than you can imagine! That's my life....and I love it!