|You are, indeed! You're perfect in every way!|
Several times, especially with our biggest 'need' boy, who is looking at yet another surgery in the very near future, we hear, "But, why me?" or "Why was I born with this?" As a Mama, it is heartbreaking and I wish I could take that cup away from them, but I know, with every fiber of my being , and I'll repeat it again, God makes NO mistakes! Ever! (Yes, you just read that in the previous paragraph.)
|Our baby girl going through her 2nd hand surgery to repair a part of her birth defect.|
Kai sleeping during one of the many, many, MANY sleep studies he has had due
to his apnea, caused by his severe cleft palate.
|Colin eating his first Oreo cookie. Think this is a happy baby? Hmmm. Just a tad, eh?|
|There, I gave y'all a triple dose of pure cuteness, cause I'm nice like that. :)|
I have yet to meet a parent of a child with any special need, who has regretted having that child in their life. Don't get me wrong. I'm not saying it's easy, for the child or the parent. There have been times when I've cried out in complete frustration, "Why God?", or "I don't think I could handle this, Lord", or "It's not fair!" But, for those few and far between moments of insanity , there are thousands of blessed moments when you look at that child and gasp at their inner or outer beauty (or both!), when the kindness and compassion they share, even though they are struggling, make you learn a lesson you will never forget, or when you tuck them in safely at night, and they softly whisper, "Goodnight, Mama. I love you." as they wrap their arms around you for one more kiss. Those are the moments that are worth every second of every tough situation you will ever face.
Every Mama and Daddy I know, grow to fiercely love and protect their children, especially those with a special needs. The fear of the unknown melted away when they held that child for the first time, whether at birth or an adopted older child. They've withstood stranger's looks and rude remarks in grocery stores and in parks. They've cried and hugged their child when others have made fun of them, and they've spent many sleepless nights wondering what tomorrow will bring, what the doctor will say, or will their child ever be healed. But, most importantly, they've made their child feel like they are exactly what God created them to be, "a masterpiece", regardless of what the world thinks or says.
No matter what our days bring, and it won't always be rainbows and butterflies, we have the blessed assurance that God has a plan for each and every one of us. He considers our life precious and perfect and sacred, as is everything he does. We may not always understand the whys of what happens, but nothing's a surprise to him. If we could pick up the phone and call him, I'm pretty sure he'd be saying, "I know. I know. You don't fully understand, and that's okay. I made it that way intentionally. You don't need to. I've got this!" He reminds us of this in his Word. Proverbs 3:5, "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your understanding." He repeats Himself in Isaiah 55:9, "For as the Heavens are the higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts higher than your thoughts."
*Special thanks to Melissa M. for letting me share her piece of heaven, Colin, with the blog world.