tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3109143451120586356.post2916190123408089827..comments2023-06-09T10:18:42.382-04:00Comments on A Bouquet of Blessings: Heartwrenching!Ohildahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04726866992948883630noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3109143451120586356.post-31557884456410920312010-10-22T11:29:49.397-04:002010-10-22T11:29:49.397-04:00This is why all states adoption law must be unifor...This is why all states adoption law must be uniform. While I think a Bio father needs to have his rights protected. (to many want their kids and are ruled against 5 I know of in Utah) Maybe NOT this dad with a criminal history since we don't know the whole story. But there are to many cases where fathers rights are ignored and this happens. I also think and this is not popular that when a father files it should NOT take this long for a decision to be made. Since that dad filed prior dna should have been done and within weeks a decision made. Thus less trauma for the child. It sounds like though they knew quite early what could happen. <br /><br /><br />Now personally Grayson should stay. This is the reason why we did not choose an adoption here plus in Nevada there is 6 months where a mind can be changed.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3109143451120586356.post-17894037953675848432010-09-28T16:08:05.920-04:002010-09-28T16:08:05.920-04:00I saw this a couple of weeks ago and have wondered...I saw this a couple of weeks ago and have wondered and wondered how things went...how awful!! I just cannot wrap my brain/heart around it. I prayed that the bio father would SEE that Grayson needed his parents and siblings and would make a SELFLESS act for his little boy. THEN, I read that the Bio Dad has a criminal history against people?!?!? Oh...I CANNOT stand it!Jill from Killeny Glenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13639521470702814007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3109143451120586356.post-14129791032469112952010-09-28T06:57:51.457-04:002010-09-28T06:57:51.457-04:00Morning O - any guy and father a child, but it tak...Morning O - any guy and father a child, but it takes a man to be a dad. Where was this guy when his son was born? Where was this guy during the decision to place Grayson for adoption? Where was this guy throughout the first three years of his son's life - why wasn't there a birthday card or Christmas gift?<br /><br />He may be the father of the child, but he's no Dad.<br /><br />Over the last 15 or so years I've seen too many kids as victims, moved too many kids out of dangerous circumstances....I just can't believe that the courts can be this foolish....<br /><br />IMHO - for the sake of the child - leave him with the only parents he's ever known....<br /><br />hugs - aus and co.Aushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02740211277947404999noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3109143451120586356.post-10606588133623832022010-09-27T21:24:43.305-04:002010-09-27T21:24:43.305-04:00Ohilda,
I picked China because this would kill me...Ohilda, <br />I picked China because this would kill me. I couldn't do it. We fostered for years and I welcomed every child into my home with the thought in my head- this is not forever. So when it was time for them to go to their parents or other family member I could deal with it. Where was Dad 3 years ago? No cards, calls, presents - nothing in all this time. He has a violent past and convicted drug user. I know our kids don't get a transition period when we get them in China- but if it is possible to give it to that little boy- why would they. <br />I'm sorry- but to much time has passed and that little boy has a family- the ones who adopted him, the one his birth mother picked for him.Tamarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09107978473861347142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3109143451120586356.post-80746910160974609452010-09-27T20:57:58.320-04:002010-09-27T20:57:58.320-04:00This is one of the reasons why there needs to be m...This is one of the reasons why there needs to be major domestic adoption reform with Federal adoption statutes, not the varying state laws we have now. <br /><br />Further, I can't understand why a judge would award full custody with no transition plan of a 3 year old to someone who's never even contacted the family about the child, though he obviously knew where the child was living. My heart breaks for all involved, but especially for Grayson.Teresahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10728723688149140707noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3109143451120586356.post-7044621329599425692010-09-27T20:35:36.530-04:002010-09-27T20:35:36.530-04:00Hi Ohilda,
While i feel that the biological dad h...Hi Ohilda,<br /><br />While i feel that the biological dad has a legal right to Grayson, he should not be allowed to take him away from the only family that he has ever known. Especially since he has a criminal record for possession and assault. <br />Grayson's real family is the one who has loved him and raised him as their own from the beginning of his life, and the ones that his biological mother chose for him.<br />Just my $.02<br />Love you!<br />AlyciaVivianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17663426689159854211noreply@blogger.com